Episode 040. The Anti-Pitch Strategy: How to Close Deals Before the Pitch
Nothing drains boutique agencies faster than the black hole of pitching and RFPs. In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on a topic that every agency owner privately obsesses over, but very few talk about honestly: why pitches rarely convert, why proposals don’t win business, and why most agencies are building their entire biz dev system on a process that statistically works against them. We’re ending the season with a powerful reframe. Because stepping into a new year with your old RFP mindset is just… not the vibe, darling.
RFPs Aren’t a Growth Strategy — They’re a Distraction Machine
We’ve both spent years inside the agency world—pitching, reviewing, writing, and refining proposals—and one thing has become painfully clear: agencies think pitching is the work. It feels like progress. It feels like momentum. It feels like business development.
But most of the time? It’s none of those things.
We walk through the actual stats in this episode, including the one that should change how you think about pitching forever: 68% of marketers already know the agency they want before sending an RFP. That means boutique agencies are often walking into a game where someone else has already been chosen.
We also talk about the emotional toll no one counts: the slipping deadlines, the follow-up emails, the ghosting, the overly complex decision-making trees, the months-long eval cycles, and the familiar sting of “We went in another direction.”Spoiler: the “reason” they tell you is almost never the real reason.
RFPs feel productive because they feel urgent. They feel like forward motion. But as we break down in the episode—urgency does not equal opportunity.
If You’re Pitching as a Boutique Agency, You’re Already Playing the Wrong Game
Boutique agencies win only 5–12% of cold RFPs. Yes, you read that right. Your odds of getting into Yale are basically higher than your odds of winning a cold pitch as a 6–7 figure shop.
Yet so many of us build our business development model around these odds… and then wonder why we feel burned out, discouraged, or “not good enough.”
In this conversation, we share the reasons boutique agencies struggle with RFPs—not because we’re unqualified, but because we’re not playing the game larger agencies are built to win. We don’t have 40-person pitch teams or the political clout or the resource cushion that makes “losing nine pitches to win one” a sustainable strategy.
We’re here to help you flip the script.
The Real Work Happens Before the Pitch
Instead of obsessing over decks, deliverables, or the “perfect scope,” we walk through the actual pre-pitch behaviors that predict a win:
Building relationships long before you need the business
Demonstrating how you think, not just what you make
Becoming memorable through POV, frameworks, and expertise
Showing up with confidence, clarity, and leadership
Vetting opportunities so you only pitch what aligns with your strengths
Asking smart human questions—not performing for a deck
We share our favorite stat of them all: Relationships increase pitch win rates by 5x.
This entire episode is about shifting your energy toward the business development strategies that actually work—not the ones that drain your Q1 before it even begins.
A Smarter, More Confident Way to Sell in 2026
As we wrap the year, we want you to take one thing with you: you do not need to pitch your way into growth. You don’t need 20 proposals a year. You don’t need to contort yourself into a bigger agency. You need clarity, confidence, relationships, and a strategic presence that wins before the deck is even opened.
This episode is equal parts empowerment and recalibration—and the perfect way to walk into a new year with more alignment, less busywork, and a business development process that actually works for who you are.
(00:00:00) Kicking Off the Season With Momentum & Fresh Energy
A season-ending high note and what feels different this time
The power of having the right support team behind the scenes
Why commitment—not perfection—kept this podcast moving forward
A first look at new partnerships, new guests, and what’s ahead next season
(00:06:41) The Hard Truth About Pitches, Proposals & Why They Rarely Convert
Why agencies mistake RFPs for a real business development strategy
The hidden disappointment behind “we went in another direction”
How pre-pitch selling actually determines the winner long before the deck
Why boutique agencies must stop playing the enterprise-agency game
(00:22:30) Why RFPs Feel Like Momentum—but Rarely Move Your Business Forward
The illusion of urgency and productivity behind every “exciting opportunity”
How incumbents, politics, and free idea-mining stack the deck against boutique agencies
The hidden time, emotional labor, and decision-maker chaos no one calculates
Why saying yes to the wrong pitch often pulls you further from your niche, not closer to growth
(00:29:37) How Many Pitches Should You Actually Say Yes To?
Why boutique agencies should cap pitches at 3–5 per year to protect margins
The red flags that signal you should walk away before you ever open a deck
How relationship strength—not capability—determines whether a pitch is worth it
Why “winning before the pitch” comes from visibility, timing, and how you think, not how you present
(00:39:58) Best-in-Class Pitching: How to Show Up Like the Obvious Choice
Why recommendations must be tailored, specific, and rooted in real insight
How to lead with outcomes—not deliverables—to command trust and clarity
The process boundaries and upfront conversations that prevent surprises
Why human connection and stakeholder alignment matter more than any deck
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